I’m Baaaaaccckk

Wow! So, I thought I was getting off to a good start and then life took over for awhile. Well, maybe that’s not the total truth. I’m sure I had some time to squeeze in some writing but I didn’t and now I’m back. I’ve had a lot of topics on my mind to discuss so I should probably get started! I’ll use this hiatus of mine to discuss something that I know mothers everywhere experience. Wanting for things that we never advance on. Or, having those dreams we may think are so far fetched we’ll never achieve them. Perhaps it’s starting your own business, becoming a blogger, picking up a hobby, cleaning out your closet, renovating something in your house…the list could go on and on. As a stay at home mom I’ve definitely had my share of ideas, dreams, accomplishments I would like to pursue. Some may be totally out there and some are quite simple-it’s just the whole “grab the bull by the horns” attitude I need to develop. I see so many successful mom bosses who hustle to run their own businesses and I think to myself how awesome that would be. To be able to bring in an income as well as stay at home with my children. It’s not impossible, but when I think of what I would like to do I just am not sure. I make a list in my head of things I’m good at and what would be my dream job if I could have it.

In the end, sometimes we psych ourselves out about our ambitions and to do lists. I think it’s amazing to have inspiring people out there who can not only give us a run for our money but have an effect on us to step up our game. We can question to ourselves “Can we have it all?” The job+the kids+the feeling of fulfillment. It’s easy to get caught up in day to day life and lose sight of what we would really like to see ourselves succeed in. It’s important to have a vision. It’s important to take some time to possibly make a list-whether writing it down or in your head of what really makes YOU happy, where you see yourself in 10 years, small and large accomplishments. It’s easy to feel mundane and alone, perhaps lost and even to the point of wondering “Am I just my kids mom? A wife?” That’s okay because there’s nothing wrong with that too. But you’re not just a mom and just a wife. You are your own success and how far you want to go with it is totally up to you. In this day and age women have so much opportunity out there we just have to go for it. Don’t let anyone or any doubt hold you back. I think that can be the most scary part of shooting for our dreams-the possibility and fear of failure. But hanging back and letting excuses get in the way of what you really want to do will only cause regret, so go for it! At least you tried. Make a vision board for yourself. Create a Pinterest page. Get a planner to keep organized and tell people close to you about your aspirations because then you have people to be accountable to. Remember, you are your worst critic and nothing is unattainable if you really want it to happen.

xo,

tara

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Do we call it the “Terrible Twos?”

Terrible Twos.

You know the phrase. You hear about it whether you are a parent or not. That time in a little one’s life when they start to become less like a cute, chubby human and more like a savage, destructive little beast. Oh wait, did I just say that? I have to make fun of it because we’ve been having quite the experience over here with our precious little Samuel. I know it’s normal-the tantrums, the testing, the defiance…and did I mention the tantrums? I knew it was coming, Sam turned two back at the end of December and honestly, we have been having some bouts of this behavior for awhile (months) before he actually turned two. I humorously told myself maybe he’s having his “terrible twos” early and we’ll just sail through it. You understood that I said humorously right? This is the perfect time to enter a “LOL” moment. The funniest part about it is that sometimes I really wonder if he does some of these monstrosities on purpose. For example, picking up my coffee I had set in the grocery cart and holding it sideways-pouring all over the cart, floor, my bag, and his brother! All of this while I had my back turned to grab some produce. I wonder and am almost positive that some of the things our kids do at this age is primarily to grab our attention. Perhaps it is, perhaps it is because they are curious. Testing the boundaries of our patience? Gravity? Surely it has to be when he bites into a marker, licks salt off the table after he’s dumped it out or takes a chunk out of a Beauty Blender. I would guess to a two year old they might look like candy or a bright pink marshmallow.

In the end, I have to remind myself he is two before I blow a gasket. Most of the things he does aren’t meant to destroy things or deliberately hurt or disappoint me. He’s learning about how to express his emotions when he’s flailing about screaming and upset because you said he has to come inside or he can’t have another M&M. He doesn’t understand when you pull him down from the dining room table that you are concerned with his safety when all he wants to do is climb and throw things on the floor. Honestly, most things I probably stop him from doing ARE because of his safety…running into the street, playing near the fireplace, getting too close to the oven while cooking etc. All of these things that are exhausting are typical and will pass as he gets older, only to be replaced with new challenges of learning and discipline.

I can’t ramble too much about the downsides of the “terrible twos” though…having a two year old is overwhelming at times, but it is FUN. Watching him learn and discover new things (when he’s not getting into trouble 😉 ) is probably one of the most rewarding parts of parenting. Reading books and pausing so he can read the part of the colors to you is pretty amazing. Listening to him list out the animals he recognizes, pointing and telling you what he wants or needs, overhearing him counting to himself in his playroom, peeking in on him showing compassion to his brother, or the random and oh so lovely kisses and hugs he gives will always be my favorite part of Sam. As he gets older and continues to blossom I want to hold on to these two year old moments. Sure, he knows how to push the buttons sometimes but he doesn’t realize that’s what he is doing. But he sure makes up for it by being just plain awesome, tantrums and all. That’s Sam. He’s two. Boy do we have a long way to go and it needs to slow down!

 

Holiday Weekends are for…family

Hi everyone! Hope you all had a fabulous and relaxing long holiday weekend with MLK day passing. I’d say we were both busy and still managed to get some relaxing time in, but we’re pretty good at that anyway. Hubs managed to do some “Honey-do’s” around the house while I took the kids to Marietta to visit with my grandmother and aunt Connie. Who, let me tell you, is Sam’s ride or die, bff for life! Haha! In all seriousness though, they had a great time playing and I helped my grandmother put together her puzzle. Most people might think that is the pits of boring, but it was actually a lot of fun! It also made me really want to get a giant children’s puzzle to put together and set up in a frame in the boy’s playroom. Something like this: https://www.seriouspuzzles.com/clasic-picture-books-300pc-jigsaw-puzzle-by-white-mountain.html?utm_source=google_shopping&gclid=CPXRsaD4tcoCFUolgQodLnMMjw

One of the things I have noticed that has been such a positive change in my life since I had Samuel, is the relationship between my aunt and I. To be honest, we weren’t necessarily all that close. Maybe we didn’t have much in common but I know she cared about me and would pray for me and honestly, she’s the first one who introduced my brother and I to church. She took me to Bible Camp as a kid where I have fond memories of not only just being in summer camp, but of accepting Christ as my savior at 12 years old. I always noticed she and my brother had a really tight bond that she and I just never had. Well, needless to say I have felt a total transformation ever since Samuel has been born. Connie is one of my biggest supporters (I’m sure she always has been, but now I see it for myself). She is also someone who is very encouraging to me as I work on my relationship with God and she also prays a lot for Pete and that he will be led to see and understand what the Lord has in store for him as well.

I never thought we’d be this close and I am grateful for her relationship, her friendship, her guidance-not only with Pete and I, but most graciously with my boys. We asked her to be Samuel’s Godmother a couple weeks ago. We couldn’t imagine someone more fitting for him, they really are two peas in a pod. Maybe a crazy , funny pod but it’s a good one! I look forward to the growing relationship between all of us in the future.

 

 

Welcome to my BlogLife

Well, here we go everyone. I’ve decided to take the next step in recording my thoughts into a blog. I’ve always wanted to write and create in some sort of way and now that I’ve become a mother with all sorts or responsibilities and new experiences, why not? With this first post I would like to introduce myself and explain a little about what I would like to discuss, examine, celebrate, learn, inform, and bring awareness to with this blog. And please let me say this, involvement from readers is key. I’d love to hear what you’d like to discuss and read about so feel free to chime in!

My name is Tara Peterson and I’m a 32 year old stay at home mama. I have two incredibly beautiful (they are, trust me 😉 ) little boys. Samuel is two years old and Oliver is about to be 7! months. Where does the time go?? Everyone tells you when you have children-from the very beginning-how fast it goes by. To cherish every moment you have with them. Boy, were they right!! I feel like now that I have two children, the time goes by even faster now!! I’m pretty sure most of the time I was pregnant with Oliver, I would actually forget I was expecting. Ha ha!! I’m married to Pete-we’ve been officially married for 15 months although it sure does feel like longer with all that we have been through together. I guess I will say that Pete and I don’t do things the “traditional” way and that’s okay, because that’s what makes us a unique couple. We bought our first house back in May of 2015, a month before I had Oliver. (Yup, packing, moving, unpacking at 8 months pregnant with a toddler was SUPER fun!) Before, we lived in Sandy Springs in an apartment. When we found out we were expecting #2 we figured it was time to get serious about upgrading our space and stop throwing away rent on a small apartment. We went house hunting and if you have ever done that, it takes quite awhile to find the place you want to sign your life away to….I mean, plant your roots-forever. We were blessed though, not only with a great realtor but the home we bought is beautiful, spacious, and everything we need for us with room to grow. Have I mentioned we have a really nice yard? Oh yeah and it’s a rural feel with a neighborhood so you get the best of both worlds. Quiet atmosphere, friendly neighbors. I can definitely see us making more memories here as our children grow up.

There’s a lot more posts to come about our growing home and children-so let’s get to a little more about why I want to write this blog and what we will be discussing. Basically, there are no limits here. I want to create a space where moms can say or think “I totally understand and I’ve been there!!” I want a place for women to come together and support one another whether you have children or not, whether you support attachment parenting or not, whether you breastfed successfully or formula fed or breastfed and struggled (like I did so many times). If you had PPD, let’s talk about it because Lord knows I did. If you’re coping with difficult family members, trying to fit in with a new mama group, trying to make new friends (it’s hard as we get older, I know!) this is the place for you. Let’s talk about our marriages and relationships, helping them grow and nourishing them. Whatever you have ideas on, let me know and we’ll talk about it!

I am also very passionate about skincare and love makeup and beauty products. I have a lot of friends who come to me and ask me for tips and advice not only for application help but for skincare woes and product information and reviews. We’ll get into that too. How to budget buy as a mom, let’s talk about that. Love Kid’s clothes and products? Me too, we’ll get into that as well. Trying to figure out what to do for dinners and meal prep? Have a picky toddler? We’ll talk about it.

I think with my first post, I’m going to leave it here with a bit of an intro into what this blog will be about. Lifestyle, Momlife, things I’m passionate about, and more. So tag along for the journey. I’m glad to have you here!

xo,

T